I have no frame of referance for your struggle since I was brought up with no religion. That being said

The one thing that I dont get is how your rejecting your dads work. If he has spent his life bringing comfort to others and helping make the world a better place well thats what he has done. If he did it in the name of god, or the giant purple moon bat who will give him a cookkie he did good. In the end thats what counts. It strikes me that both you and your folks are trying to make your corners of earth better so how differnt are you from him?

I do get being loth to tell loved ones about something that can seperate people but you really did do the right thing.

Ash