I get a bit miffed at those who seem to think bi must mean 50/50
Well, aside from any other factors, the math just doesn't work out.
In terms of the most basic orientation compatibility (generally agreed to mostly be necessary for any further development of a romantic/sexual relationship), the skew is dramatic.
Let's go with the arbitrary 10% figure for gayness. And let's say maybe another 10% are bi -- very rough figures here, since I'm only illustrating the point. So, I'm female. Basic orientation compatibility with straight men, bi men, lesbians, and bi women. According to the previous arbitrary numbers, that's about 90% of men, and only 20% of women. Even if I'm equally likely to be attracted to any given woman as any given man -- even if I'm exactly, precisely 50/50, my dating life won't likely reflect that unless I intentionally force it to. And that doesn't even begin to touch all the cultural issues that feed into it being more difficult to pursue involvements outside of the "approved system". Why would we expect that bi people, in general, would somehow have all turned that 90/20 skew into a 50/50 pattern in their own lives, while fighting upstream against all the systemic homophobia out there?
It's just a silly expectation, and I don't have overwhelming respect for the statistical abilities of people who expect to see 50/50 in daily life on a regular basis.
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Well, aside from any other factors, the math just doesn't work out.
In terms of the most basic orientation compatibility (generally agreed to mostly be necessary for any further development of a romantic/sexual relationship), the skew is dramatic.
Let's go with the arbitrary 10% figure for gayness. And let's say maybe another 10% are bi -- very rough figures here, since I'm only illustrating the point. So, I'm female. Basic orientation compatibility with straight men, bi men, lesbians, and bi women. According to the previous arbitrary numbers, that's about 90% of men, and only 20% of women. Even if I'm equally likely to be attracted to any given woman as any given man -- even if I'm exactly, precisely 50/50, my dating life won't likely reflect that unless I intentionally force it to. And that doesn't even begin to touch all the cultural issues that feed into it being more difficult to pursue involvements outside of the "approved system". Why would we expect that bi people, in general, would somehow have all turned that 90/20 skew into a 50/50 pattern in their own lives, while fighting upstream against all the systemic homophobia out there?
It's just a silly expectation, and I don't have overwhelming respect for the statistical abilities of people who expect to see 50/50 in daily life on a regular basis.