*nod* I think I do. Interestingly, it was hitting me on a very different level than relative attractiveness. For me, it was about normative life-plans and goals vs non-normative. Anytime one brings a child into things, lots of practicalities have to change. However, the ways in which it's possible for them to change successfully are really remarkably varied, and seeing it simplified to "grow up and act normal" really didn't sit well with me. That she was that force in the movie is the largest part of why I didn't connect with her.