I saw an episode of DYAO by accident last week and loved it. I thought Marissa was hot and cute, I thought the contestants were hot and cute, and I thought the costumes were not ill fitting or trashy (they're DANCE costumes -- dance costumes are sometimes a little gaudy). Also the partners seemed not skinny and I enjoyed watching people who hadn't been able to do, say, deep squats, pole pullups or dips before get confident and strong enough to do so with attitude. I didn't find the judges mean or patronizing especially by reality TV standards. Marketing a show that seems less about weight loss than about becoming mobile and confident in one's sex appeal doesn't seem evil to me. A drop of 2 to 4 pounds in a week, which is what many of them seem to accomplish on these "drastic" diet and exercise regimes, is not beyond the pale -- I've done it myself without becoming unhealthy when I wanted to lose weight. And losing weight a little at a time while the main goal seems to be improving strength, muscle control, endurance, and grace really doesn't seem bad to me. I didn't see it as an opportunity for fat-haters to gawk. Unlike "Biggest Loser" I didn't see their fat depicted as grotesque. Just because they want to lose weight doesn't mean they aren't learning to move and feel sexy as fat people in a way they probably didn't know they could before. I weigh 200 pounds now, have weighed a lot more and a lot less at times, and I have loved and had great sex with women and men of various sizes, and I dug getting to see people who'd felt bad about their weight learn to work it and show off in a way that feels good. Am I missing something?