I most often find the art issue a problem in movies and older books. I have a lot of trouble enjoying old movies because I can't stop noticing the gender and race politics to the exclusion of actually just enjoying the plot, for example.

I see a lot of overlap between the lesbian/bi/straight poly worlds, with gay open relationships generally being conceptualized very differently. And I don't think that's just because of my own relationship dynamics (my most long-standing poly relationship being with K and T, who are living within a pretty poly and poly-friendly lesbian subculture). I also see it in who posts to the LJ poly communities. I can recall a lot of posts by poly lesbians, but almost none by poly-identified gay men.