It IS hard. Especially when the posts I see from bi-identified women are usually thought-provoking, well written and relationship (even if it's just FWB relationship) focused. All the posts from men almost without question begin something like, "I'm not gay at ALL, and I only do X thing sexually with men when there is a woman present/she wants me to/we do it together", etc. "I never, ever want to have a relationship with a man and won't kiss them, either". So...I more than ruffle a bit at that, yannow? But that link was a great post about a solidly written piece and it made me think w/o personally attacking anyone. Which, apparently, doesn't happen on Fetlife anymore. *facepalm*