I want to say that I've had friends tell me I was with the wrong person before, and they've been unequivocably right in hindsight. (Your former roommate comes to mind, as well as a few others.) Had anything happened with my most recent crush, I can see now, more clearly, that I would have been gravely dissapointed with it, as my friends told me I would.
Your friends know you, and they're not blinded by the emotional miasma you're going through. Generally speaking, their advice is a good thing.
Does this mean you should DTMFA? I doubt it. Without actually experiencing the downsides -- what your friends see -- you'll resent your friends for the decision you make at their behest. All the same, it most likely will come eventually, you'll break up for the reasons they saw coming, and they'll have to bite their tongues to hold back the "I told you so."
The other problem is, of course, that the more your friends espouse their unfavorable opinion of the person with whom you're in love, the less time you want to spend with them, and consequently, the less likely they'll be willing to be there for you when that break up does happen.
What I'd do in that situation would be to say to your friends, "listen, I understand your concern, and I'll be careful about it, but I'm in love, and I'm happy. Let me make my own mistakes, be happy for me when I'm happy, and comfort me when I'm not. I'll do the same for you."
Then do that. Beyond that make sure you allot time for your friends. If you don't, you'll lose them.
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Your friends know you, and they're not blinded by the emotional miasma you're going through. Generally speaking, their advice is a good thing.
Does this mean you should DTMFA? I doubt it. Without actually experiencing the downsides -- what your friends see -- you'll resent your friends for the decision you make at their behest. All the same, it most likely will come eventually, you'll break up for the reasons they saw coming, and they'll have to bite their tongues to hold back the "I told you so."
The other problem is, of course, that the more your friends espouse their unfavorable opinion of the person with whom you're in love, the less time you want to spend with them, and consequently, the less likely they'll be willing to be there for you when that break up does happen.
What I'd do in that situation would be to say to your friends, "listen, I understand your concern, and I'll be careful about it, but I'm in love, and I'm happy. Let me make my own mistakes, be happy for me when I'm happy, and comfort me when I'm not. I'll do the same for you."
Then do that. Beyond that make sure you allot time for your friends. If you don't, you'll lose them.