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1. how would you deal with a young person who is bisexual and is being told its a phase?
Primarily, I'd try to communicate my belief, and the increasing data, that sexuality is a complex, fluid, hard-to-pin-down thing, and that static identity labels have the ability to be as constrictive as they do freeing and self-affirming. Then I'd point out that there's no more or less reason to believe bisexuality will be a phase for them than heterosexuality or homosexuality (people shift in all directions remarkably evenly, actually), and even if any of those were a phase, that doesn't invalidate the importance of such times and experiences. I'd also talk about how identity isn't determined solely by who one is sleeping with, or not sleeping with, at one particular moment. That'd probably lead to a conversation about what issues matter most, regardless of partner choice -- mutual respect, safety, etc -- and I'd acknowledge the presence of biphobia and the issue of bi-invisibility, and talk a bit about how to handle it in our society, and where to find bi/questioning/queer-supportive resources.
2. If you found out one of the people getting an abortion was/is a pro life protester would you out them or how would you deal?
No, I definitely wouldn't. It's not actually a particularly rare occurrence. It frustrates and angers me, but I also think that demonstrating our morals and standards is more important than vengeance, both in the message it sends to that woman, and the message it sends to other patients. I can hope that her experience will change her views, either then or gradually over time, but I can't assume that'll happen. However, it's not like I'm totally high-minded, either. I'm quite sure I wouldn't be able to resist snarking with other people where it wouldn't be a privacy violation (other escorts or employees, for example).
3. What resources and research would you suggest for someone who was interested in creating porn films?
Hmmmm.... Well, keep in mind that I don't follow internet-available porn much at all, so I know nothing about new developments there. I think I'd suggest checking out a wide range of porn (easiest either online, or through a porn rental service; I use sugardvd.com myself, and am reasonably content with it, although I still have to buy my own on too much of the niche stuff they don't have), particularly noting which production companies it's coming from, to start to get a sense of how many ways the topic can be tackled, in everything from actor choice to production values. I'd especially suggest checking out a good deal of the successful indie and queer stuff, but I also think it's valuable to see where the mainstream has attempted to get creative, and in which ways they've succeeded and failed (I think Tristan Taormino's attempts at creating big budget mainstream pieces with her own spin are interesting, for example, and say a lot about where the weaknesses and strengths in that approach turn out to be). I have no idea what AVN (Adult Video News) is like these days -- last time I saw an issue had to be 15 years ago, but it's one place to look and see how the more mainstream stuff is being handled, at least. However, since I doubt you're talking about going to work for Vivid or something, focusing on the smaller productions is likely to be more useful. Looking through Good Vibes and Blowfish's websites can be handy for seeing what kind of creative stuff is being done; they carry and accurately review more of the cool stuff than most places. Blowfish has a Blowfish Presents series, Shar Rednour and Jackie Strano do some fun stuff, Audacia Ray's fun and feminist... There's a lot out there. If you're seriously interested, we should talk at more length some time, by IM or email. I'm not the most knowledgeable, but I'm familiar with enough to point you toward some starting points, at least, if I can understand more what you're thinking about doing.
Since the original question post was on my sexuality filter, I'm screening comments here, too, in case anyone else wanted to ask something (personal, theoretical, TMI, whatever). I'm not sure how many more I'll get through by the end of the day, but I'm having fun so far.
Primarily, I'd try to communicate my belief, and the increasing data, that sexuality is a complex, fluid, hard-to-pin-down thing, and that static identity labels have the ability to be as constrictive as they do freeing and self-affirming. Then I'd point out that there's no more or less reason to believe bisexuality will be a phase for them than heterosexuality or homosexuality (people shift in all directions remarkably evenly, actually), and even if any of those were a phase, that doesn't invalidate the importance of such times and experiences. I'd also talk about how identity isn't determined solely by who one is sleeping with, or not sleeping with, at one particular moment. That'd probably lead to a conversation about what issues matter most, regardless of partner choice -- mutual respect, safety, etc -- and I'd acknowledge the presence of biphobia and the issue of bi-invisibility, and talk a bit about how to handle it in our society, and where to find bi/questioning/queer-supportive resources.
2. If you found out one of the people getting an abortion was/is a pro life protester would you out them or how would you deal?
No, I definitely wouldn't. It's not actually a particularly rare occurrence. It frustrates and angers me, but I also think that demonstrating our morals and standards is more important than vengeance, both in the message it sends to that woman, and the message it sends to other patients. I can hope that her experience will change her views, either then or gradually over time, but I can't assume that'll happen. However, it's not like I'm totally high-minded, either. I'm quite sure I wouldn't be able to resist snarking with other people where it wouldn't be a privacy violation (other escorts or employees, for example).
3. What resources and research would you suggest for someone who was interested in creating porn films?
Hmmmm.... Well, keep in mind that I don't follow internet-available porn much at all, so I know nothing about new developments there. I think I'd suggest checking out a wide range of porn (easiest either online, or through a porn rental service; I use sugardvd.com myself, and am reasonably content with it, although I still have to buy my own on too much of the niche stuff they don't have), particularly noting which production companies it's coming from, to start to get a sense of how many ways the topic can be tackled, in everything from actor choice to production values. I'd especially suggest checking out a good deal of the successful indie and queer stuff, but I also think it's valuable to see where the mainstream has attempted to get creative, and in which ways they've succeeded and failed (I think Tristan Taormino's attempts at creating big budget mainstream pieces with her own spin are interesting, for example, and say a lot about where the weaknesses and strengths in that approach turn out to be). I have no idea what AVN (Adult Video News) is like these days -- last time I saw an issue had to be 15 years ago, but it's one place to look and see how the more mainstream stuff is being handled, at least. However, since I doubt you're talking about going to work for Vivid or something, focusing on the smaller productions is likely to be more useful. Looking through Good Vibes and Blowfish's websites can be handy for seeing what kind of creative stuff is being done; they carry and accurately review more of the cool stuff than most places. Blowfish has a Blowfish Presents series, Shar Rednour and Jackie Strano do some fun stuff, Audacia Ray's fun and feminist... There's a lot out there. If you're seriously interested, we should talk at more length some time, by IM or email. I'm not the most knowledgeable, but I'm familiar with enough to point you toward some starting points, at least, if I can understand more what you're thinking about doing.
Since the original question post was on my sexuality filter, I'm screening comments here, too, in case anyone else wanted to ask something (personal, theoretical, TMI, whatever). I'm not sure how many more I'll get through by the end of the day, but I'm having fun so far.
