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Aug. 1st, 2011 10:33 pmOh, time to watch Sarah twitch.
So. NL is awesome. I think I've made that pretty clear. Frankly, I don't generally choose to have non-awesome people in my life, so that's sort of unsurprising.
Beyond the awesomeness part is the other crucial factor -- compatibility. It's entirely possible to be an awesome person who isn't the least bit compatible with me, or is only in certain ways. I'm not compatible with the vast majority of the planet, and I'm really quite fine with that. NL and I certainly seem to be pretty ridiculously compatible (Hell, the all-knowing OKC algorithms say 99% or something obscene like that). It's a kind of compatibility that I have with my housemates and one or two other people in my life -- I need a lot of recharging time, and I can't relax fully enough and recharge while still being social (I'm just a bit too much of an introvert for that). The exception is with my housemates and those one or two other people. I really especially treasure those relationships as a result, especially since those are also the people I'm by far most able to cope with in the depths of depression, too. I seem to have that level of comfort with NL, even though we've known each other less than two months. That's huge and weird. I'm able to spend way more time around him than I can around almost anyone without getting claustrophobic and needing a break. It's really noticeable with sleeping; I usually need some alone (w/household) time before bed to wind down, and I generally prefer sleeping alone. Neither seem to be the case with him. I actually miss him when he doesn't sleep over. I'm very used to being able to predict my own reactions to things, and this is unsettling partially because I can't -- this is all really atypical for me.
So. Atypical, yes. Bad, certainly not. So why am I all freaked out?
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So. NL is awesome. I think I've made that pretty clear. Frankly, I don't generally choose to have non-awesome people in my life, so that's sort of unsurprising.
Beyond the awesomeness part is the other crucial factor -- compatibility. It's entirely possible to be an awesome person who isn't the least bit compatible with me, or is only in certain ways. I'm not compatible with the vast majority of the planet, and I'm really quite fine with that. NL and I certainly seem to be pretty ridiculously compatible (Hell, the all-knowing OKC algorithms say 99% or something obscene like that). It's a kind of compatibility that I have with my housemates and one or two other people in my life -- I need a lot of recharging time, and I can't relax fully enough and recharge while still being social (I'm just a bit too much of an introvert for that). The exception is with my housemates and those one or two other people. I really especially treasure those relationships as a result, especially since those are also the people I'm by far most able to cope with in the depths of depression, too. I seem to have that level of comfort with NL, even though we've known each other less than two months. That's huge and weird. I'm able to spend way more time around him than I can around almost anyone without getting claustrophobic and needing a break. It's really noticeable with sleeping; I usually need some alone (w/household) time before bed to wind down, and I generally prefer sleeping alone. Neither seem to be the case with him. I actually miss him when he doesn't sleep over. I'm very used to being able to predict my own reactions to things, and this is unsettling partially because I can't -- this is all really atypical for me.
So. Atypical, yes. Bad, certainly not. So why am I all freaked out?
( Read more... )
