[Moya] Talking Sex vs Sex by Talk (on TMI and Boundaries)

So, I talk about sex and sexuality-related issues very differently than most folks, and much more openly. And now seems like a good time to explain how boundaries around that work in my life. Or hopefully it is; I did just wake up and may not be entirely coherent yet.

I talk about sex, including my own sex life, in graphic detail. And I also sometimes flirt and have online sex of various sorts (great way to burn off extra sexual energy without worry about navigating extra safer sex stuff in my life, given that my relationships explicitly permit such play). What's the difference?
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[Moya] Self-description

Since I haven't talked about this one in a while, I figured I'd post some of my profile info from different sites as an example of how I describe myself, how it differs by context, and how it's overall very strongly similar (this has a lot to do with a strong commitment not to compartmentalize my life - again, another post topic for someday)

OKCupid Profile (the longest of any of my profiles out there, I'm pretty damned sure. Also the profile that has resulted in a number of awesome involvements in my life, especially Chad!):
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Fetlife (one of my briefest because I use it so rarely):
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My XTube Profile (cutting the bits that are copy/paste from my OKC profile, fyi):
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One of my random Craigslist ads from a few years ago (hate that CL makes me choose between posting in W4W or W4M):
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Hmmm. Wasn't I going to go back to sleep after the last post?

Hiding in the dark (literally) and Clinic Escorting stuff

Although many things about this weekend have been awesome, being on Day 7 of the migraine really isn't. I was originally going to call in, see about going in a bit late after waiting for another dose of meds to kick in, but it's gotten bad enough I'm home for the day, hiding in a cool dark room with my laptop screen turned down. Unfortunately, quirk of my migraines is that they often get much worse if I fall asleep when they're still mid-level or higher. I wake up in blinding pain. So I'm waiting for the meds to kick in enough that I feel like I _can_ go to sleep without waking up worse. Thankfully, I've pretty much tuned my laptop and phone to adapt (the brightness widget I've installed on my phone is on my primary screen, for example). There's a reason my LJ default background is so dark, and I view all my friends' pages in my style, not in theirs. Also, handy that I can type relatively accurately without looking at the screen, and then only have to glance over to proof.

A few paste-overs from FB (still hoping in vain to manage to keep them mostly synchronized):
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Clinic Escorting Stuff:

On my way to Preterm. Looking forward to escorting today, but it's going to be four hours of walking in circles around the building in the rain and damp on four hours of sleep. Hello invitation to fibro flare. *digs out meds*

Well fuck. Glass block wall in front of the clinic has been vandalized. Looks like someone took a tire iron or some other blunt implement to it, probably a bare minimum of 20 times. This piddling shit is part of the death by a thousand papercuts that drives clinics out of business all over the country, requires diverting funds from assisting needy patients and into repair and security. Makes me livid. And yes, I'll assume 'likes' on this mean you're pissed too, not that you're a raving douchecanoe.
(Comments: if you happen to have any spare fundage you can donate at www.preterm.org; they are the best clinic I've seen in my life, and thoroughly and wholeheartedly deserve the support.)

Think I got some decent audio of what it sounds like at our clinic on a Saturday morning when a patient pulls in. If they turned out I'll post them this afternoon. I think even with my crapass phone locking up and losing several recordings I got a bit of speaking in tongues [also, on a theological level I think they haven't got a clue about what the gift of tongues was supposed to be about #grumpyministerskid].( Read more... )