This dovetails nicely...
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moominmuppet...with the identity question from the Friday Five.
I've been rereading Carol Queen's Real Live Nude Girl, and some parts have always resonated very strongly with me.
From the end of the chapter titled "The Queer in Me":
It is the queer in me that empowers, that lets me see those lines and burn to cross them; that lets me question the lies we all were told about who women are, who men are, how we may properly interact...what nice girls do and don't do. The queer in all of us clamors for pleasure and change, will not be tamed or regulated, wants a say in the creation of a new reality.
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Lesbian-feminist assumptions about who women are and how we may behave make sense to me, but I don't see myself engaging in heterosexual relationships even when my lover is a man. Conversely, I don't buy the mythology that men are just too different to relate to intimately, since that suggests a "men-and-women-are-opposites" dialectic that seems heterosexual to me. All our differences and similarities are vast and rich--their interplay is the fabric of all relating. It's hard to invent rules out of such complexity; we improvise as we learn about each other.
I want to honor and share our emerging secrets. If a bisexual community can form with no need to define itself in relation to its "opposite", perhaps there I will have my coming-out place. Until then, home is not a place, but a process.
I've been rereading Carol Queen's Real Live Nude Girl, and some parts have always resonated very strongly with me.
From the end of the chapter titled "The Queer in Me":
It is the queer in me that empowers, that lets me see those lines and burn to cross them; that lets me question the lies we all were told about who women are, who men are, how we may properly interact...what nice girls do and don't do. The queer in all of us clamors for pleasure and change, will not be tamed or regulated, wants a say in the creation of a new reality.
...
Lesbian-feminist assumptions about who women are and how we may behave make sense to me, but I don't see myself engaging in heterosexual relationships even when my lover is a man. Conversely, I don't buy the mythology that men are just too different to relate to intimately, since that suggests a "men-and-women-are-opposites" dialectic that seems heterosexual to me. All our differences and similarities are vast and rich--their interplay is the fabric of all relating. It's hard to invent rules out of such complexity; we improvise as we learn about each other.
I want to honor and share our emerging secrets. If a bisexual community can form with no need to define itself in relation to its "opposite", perhaps there I will have my coming-out place. Until then, home is not a place, but a process.
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Date: 2006-03-26 01:57 am (UTC)It's been massively influential on me.
And I passed off Pomosexuals to my friend C just this afternoon, because she's someone who'll totally appreciate it!